The Joys of Sharing
Last night was the last public party for Metro Vancouver Kink (MVK) at the Capri Hall. It was an incredibly successful event, that started with a service auction of some of the more experienced locals. I was asked to donate a service and so I offered either a single tail play session or a one-on-one single tail lesson.
Well, I was bout by a local Domme who wanted to learn single tails. It was rewarding sharing what I know with someone who has the same interests, and I was happy to see her pick up the basics about throwing single tails.
I then had a session with S. We decided to do a suspension this time, and so I lined up to get one of the suspension racks. It was a busy night and the place was buzzing with all kinds of lay.
The guy on the suspension rack I was waiting for was stupidly slow. I normally try not to judge other people’s play, but this guy was more than just incompetent–he was in considerate. He took so long to get issue into a partial bondage, she was totally disengaged from the play. His focus was entirely on getting the ties done, and there’s was no respect or attention paid to the sub. On top of that, his harnesses were poorly made and positioned, making it impossible for the sub to move from the partial suspension to a full one.
To make matters worse, after he had finished playing–and I use the term very loosely here–with his sub, he starter to put his gear away. This would not be an issue,except that he was even slower coiling his rope. And despite seeing thatthewereseveralpeoplewaitinginlineto use the suspension rack, he sat and merrily coiled his rope for almost half an hour. It’s the kind of discourtesy that gets you a bad name in the rope community. And a lot of ridicule.
Well by the time he was done, there were couple of groups wanting to use the rack. I was up next, and another experienced rigger was behind me. I turned and asked her if she wanted share the rack. She agreed and the two of us set up. It was a great dual scene. She did a partial suspension with a female sub while I did a full suspension with S.
S and I were having a lot of fun. I did a facedown suspension. I lay on the floor and we had a really playful scene. I locked my arms and S would lift herself up. We kissed (a lot, she is a GREAT kisser) and we touched each other. It was a really hot and wonderful time.
I then motioned to S’s husband to come over and join us. He stood over her and did some impact play with her. She struggled while I fondled between her legs. S and I had a fantastic scene made even better because S’s husband was a part of our scene.
And that is the thing. Far too often, we get wrapped up in what we are doing that we forget about what’s going on around us. The Molasses Rigger wasn’t just inconsiderate; he was totally clueless. If he was a little more aware, he would have made things a lot better not just for the people waiting for the equipment he was wasting, he would have gained a level of respect that would have enhanced his reputation. Instead he is labelled as an ass, and will always be seen in that light.
Sharing is a lot better.
