Musings and experiences about BDSM and other things decadent

So after a long absence, I have come back to writing.

I love writing.  I do it for a living (a pretty good living actually).  And I do it as a recreation.  I have had a book on virtual reality published by a major press, and I am writing two novels is my spare time.  And I am making time to write in my blogs.

All because I have found balance.

For the last couple of years, I have let two of my passions–kendo and kink–take over my life.  If I wasn;t doing kendo in my spare time, I was going to public and private play parties every week.  Sometimes more than one a week.  And I would play and play and play.  I was eventually doing two or three scenes a night.  and it was great.

But I had no balance.  I was playing, but I was building no relationships.  I was having fun, but I was neglecting all the other things that make me who I am.

So I decided to take a step back from kink and kendo to put time in all the other things that help define who I am.

It is about balance.

I am kinky.  I love to be kinky.  But kinky is not all that I am.

It is about balance.

I love kendo.  I love the discipline.  I love the physical and mental challenges.  But kendo is not all that I am.

It is about balance.

And so I am walking the tightrope.  I am juggling many things: work, relationships, play, kendo, writing, reading, photography, art.  I have many, many balls in the air right now.  But I love it because I am finally being who I am.

Balanced.